.. We spent Father's day with my inlaws as per usual. What was unusual was not one of my father-in-law's biological children were in attendance. When I casually mentioned it to Lowell, he said, "Oh that's true." noticing it for the first time and in prompt parental fashion defended there whereabouts. Keith had golfed with him earlier in the week, Margo and Bruce had called and are on their way in later this week for the anniversary...all is good there. My point being the spattering of daughter-in law's and grandchildren held joy in after all what is just one day in a very family -filled summer.
In fast forward motion, I realize that only too soon there will be everydays and holidays without my only child in attendance. We have bestowed a sense of priority for the special occasions of those around us, not always successful..but the heart is there.
So, when the day comes and the phone rings and Katrina says, " Mom, will you mind if I go home with....... for Thanksgiving?' will I be able to be able to bite my homesick tongue and be "Ok " celebrating without her or at best an "alternative holiday"? Sharing, that skill aptly learned as a pre-schooler is one we are reminded of many times in the next year as parents.
From college applications, interviews and auditions, I begin to contemplate all the ways in which we will be "sharing" our girl and her accomplishments with tons of new people this year . She has a truly unique set of experiences that will serve her well as the stepping stones to her version of "success".
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